3 Benefits of NOT Posting Your Relationship on Social Media!

A research was done several years ago at the Northern University on about 108 couples who posted their significant others opposed to those who didn’t on Facebook and the results showed that those who posted their partners were insecure and were really unhappy in the relationships. They used social media as an escape to pretend but reality found that those who did not post their partners were in fact had a stronger foundation and were happier. THINK ON THAT FOR A MINUTE!

Social media is a great tool to promote business, to meet new friends, to experience new experiences. But, it can be a destructive force when persons are oversharing personal information like vlogging their day-to-day lives, showing where they buy groceries, where they hang out and even sharing their present locations. Social media can be a destructive weapon to relationship when persons spend most of their time scrolling when on a date when they should be present with their partners. It is sad but we have become a generation enslaved to social media. We create a fake life for others to think we have it together when in fact, we lack self-love, self-value and even more devastatingly MORALS.

Below are THREE (3) BENEFITS of not posting your relationship:

• You will have privacy. Couples who vlog their lives struggle in the days when their relationships are challenged. They are forced to come on camera and pretend to be happy because they are attached to a contract to keep their audience entertained. They really have no privacy also because someone is always watching to see if there will be a meltdown of their relationship to rush to YouTube to comment on it. It is sad but really once you go down this path, persons expect that your life will forever be on display and this is where it gets toxic for relationship. There are some matters that should be handled in private but couples these days are fighting on social media with clap-back videos.

• You will have a stronger bond. You will now have the space to bond in private without an audience and build a genuine connection; friendship which is extremely important for relationship. You will become unattached because now you have privacy to go through the motions of life with your partner without the negative comments on social media about your relationship.

• You will not face comparison. Social media is a space created in such a way, it is hard not to compare your life to someone else and so with you staying away from posting your personal life, you give no one a free ticket to criticize your relationship and put you up against another couple. You will not be under this pressure to live up to a faux expectation.

Bottom-line is, the less you show the better it is for your life. Yes, you can post your photos and yes you can post a photo of you and your partner but showcasing every single detail of your life and every post you post it is about how in love you are – well, that is dangerous and it is also revealing that you are seeking validation from social media.

Think twice before you post – can you really handle the comments, the critics, and the eyes on your life?