3 REASONS to avoid ‘gossiping’ about your partner

It happens all the time in intimate relationships – malice, misunderstandings and yes, arguments. It is normal because a relationship is two different minds coming to make one unified relationship. This will, accordingly, activate friction so it is expected that couples will experience disagreements. Most persons are of strong conviction that a healthy relationship is one that infallible. They desire the fairytales and the happy ending in the movies negating from the realities of life so when a flare up of arguments surface, they run to their families and friends to ‘blab’ about all the bad things their partners are doing. Beloved, I beseech you to stop and here are the reasons why.

1. You can forgive and forget but others won’t. Couples argue but they also make up and when you drag others in your relational drama, you may choose to forgive him for what he said or did the night before but believe it when I say, your family and friends won’t and that can dampen how your family and friends relate to you and your partner.

2. It disrespects your partner. It is a total slap in your partner’s face when things go south, you run up north to gossip to your family and friends of all the negatives. What about the times when things are “rosy”? It is not to say, you should keep your feelings bottled in, but you have a responsibility to yourself and your relationship to handle the challenges that will arise, with respect. If you are not being abused, learn to handle your relationship issues with maturity, respect and ultimately love. If you must let it out, seek a Relationship Coach or Counsellor.

3. You partner will not trust you. I mean, can you really blame him? If you cannot keep intimate disagreements under wraps, why should your partner share their secrets with you?

Learn to handle problems with the person you have the problems with. Blabbing to your family and friends will not make it better, what will fix it, is communicating with your man.