Should my man have FULL access to my cell-phone?

The cell-phone is now a dangerous killer to relationships. You see it on social media and you hear of it at the salon. The whole conspiracy behind having a password is creating a serious havoc in relationships and what has happened is the invasion of privacy which has resulted in relationship failures.

Joanne: “I don’t go through my man’s phone or nothing because I prefer not to see what is in it!”

Vere: “I do search my man’s phones because I need to know what he is doing and he doesn’t even know I have all of his passwords.”

Shan: “Every woman should search because some of these men are snakes!”

Your partner should be given their autonomy and should never feel imprisoned or supervised. As such, it only sets a wildfire ablaze when persons give over their entire life to another human being even if you are married. It has absolutely nothing to do with keeping secrets but it is about respecting each others' privacy.

Here are 3 MAJOR reasons you should not go through your partner’s cell-phone:

1: You will misread your partner’s character. You can come across a message between your man and a female friend joking around and calling each other "hon" or "sweetie" and immediately you misconstrue that your man is cheating.

2: You become addicted to “lurking”. You will tell yourself you won’t dig deeper if you notice a password on your man’s cell-phone but you will find yourself digging and when a habit as this reveals itself, you are about to wreck your relationship.

3: You learn things about your partner that is best you never know! You could see a message of him asking a friend about some sexual enhancement medication to get erected and this can make you look at him in a different light.

It is simply best to give your partner his/her privacy and respect that. If you have to lurk, it may be time to walk away as your relationship should be fortified by trust.