What Makes a man "High-Value"?

Men were created to lead and with confidence. It was never God’s intention for women to dominate men. Men were designed with a particular built and logical mindset to lead opposed to women who were more of nurturers and emotional. Many women would argue that with such a system that they are tired of women being downplayed and looked down upon. But ladies, I promise you with the right man by your side – you will be honored to give him the leadership position in your life. But there are certain traits a MASCULINE man, a HIGH-VALUE man must possess.

• God-Fearing. If a man has no relationship with God, he will be lost and has no real direction of where his life ought to be going. And, he will also be fearful of love and to love. He will not know how to forgive and how to move forward and he will unconditionally be stuck emotionally.

• Confident. A man who is insecure will be forever seeking validation which can lead him to being abusive. Confidence is not arrogance. It is knowing who you are and you comfortably live within those borders. You care for your thoughts and words to ensure that they align with your standards. A man who is confident, makes decision consciously know he will have to deal with the outcome – whether good or bad. He never backs down from challenges because he is a MAN.

• The Breadwinner. A man who has a relationship first with God, knows that his first role is to provide. A real man never looks for women with more to provide but he ensures he is above average and he provides. He is never comfortable with a woman providing. It is now the norm for men to seek women with high-paying careers to leech on them and it is now the norm for men to stay home while the women work. No MASCULINE man will ever stand for this. He understands his role in the household and so in his early years of manhood, he sets the foundation by first creating a blueprint for his goals and acting on it.

1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

• Loving. Now, this is where it gets more complex because men (at least most were, based a personal survey administered) were taught how to not show love because love is a weakness in masculinity. But a man must know how to meet his wife’s emotional needs else he will have hell in his household. This is done by complimenting her, assisting her, taking care of her, being present, being faithful, being committed to promises made by you and by being a true leader. She wants to feel your love and contrary to what you were probably taught, love is actually a reflection of true strength because it is quite easy to hate in this world but extremely difficult to love and to trust love.

• Groomed. The first impression last and your first impression should last so it is highly important for men to groom themselves and carry themselves well. SO yes, it is critical for men to have a self-care routine and no, it is not feminine. It is imperative for men to have 2-3 showers daily, wear deodorant and cologne, get a trim and groom their facial hair (if you have any). Women need their men to look good too.